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Wednesday, October 29, 2014

I've been waiting, but it hasn't happened!

I’m waiting.
I’ve got my emotional boxing gloves on.
Who wants a shot at me!

When we were in Durango, the counselor and I along with the kids took some time to ride the free trolley.  It takes you through downtown, then up the hill towards Purgatory, than loops back to town.  Days earlier we’d spent 8 hours in the car driving from Phoenix to Durango so why an hour long excursion in a non-air-conditioning trolley was fun only a kid would be able to answer that one.  At one point, we were the only passengers until the trolley stopped and picked up a woman.  She walked onto the trolley, looking for a place to sit.  I could see her taking inventory on the kid to parent ratio when she looked at the counselor and I and said “Are all these yours?”
Here it comes.
Prepare yourself, Laura.  Emotional boxing gloves in place. 
“They sure are, plus one on the way,” the counselor said patting my tummy. 
That man has a way with words.
She did a head count and watched for a moment as Mayer and Reef wrestled over a seat.
Those boys were not helping.
She walked down the isle, and sat right behind me. 
“Oh my gosh,” she said.
I might need an emotional crash helmet for this one, I thought.  Ready for impact!
“I would love to have another baby,” she said.
Wait, what!
I turned in my seat and comfortably faced her.  Did this woman really just say what I think she did.
“I have three daughters and would love to try for another, but I’m too old.  You’re so lucky.”
I’m not sure if she saw my face light up or not, but I was beyond touched.
“Thank you,” I said.  “It’s a lot of work, but worth it.”
“Do you know what you’re having yet?” she asked.
I explained to her we are going to wait a while, I wasn’t that far along yet.
“I can tell you’re having a girl by the wrinkles on your face,” she said and leaned into my ear.  “I had the same wrinkles.”
Compliment or insult, I decided it was pretty cool to be told I was having a girl by a stranger.  What a cool lady.

But, really where are the people waiting to tell me I’m in over my head?
The world’s overpopulated?
But you've already got your girl!
We don’t have enough resources?
Children are a nuisance?
It's too difficult in this day and age to raise children.

Or the dreaded sexually explicit comment -
 "You do know what causes that, don't you?"

Really, I’ve got this.  
I’m prepared – as soon as I find someone who wants to take me on.

Right after I found out I was pregnant, I went to the vitamin store in search of the best prenatal.  I asked an assistant for help and she started asking all sorts of questions. 
How many children I already had? 
How old was I? 
Was this baby a surprise?
Finally!  Somebody ready to fight me on this when she started “compliment gushing” all over me.  It was really quite disgusting; praising me, telling me how gorgeous I am, what a blessing this was and she felt a beautiful female spirit near me. 
“You’re having a daughter,” she said.
Then she had the nerve to sing “Happy Birthday” to me (I told her I’d just turned 42) in the middle of the store in the most angelic voice I’ve ever heard.  Where are these nice people coming from?  I’m just not ready for all this!

My neighbor the caterer brought me this beautiful ”BLESSING” banner after she found out then news.  
It’s made with pages from an old Bible that was beyond saving.  She even used pages from the book of Psalms.  PSALMS!

I’ve had meals brought in by family and friends.  My mom made me acorn squash and organic chicken.  I thought I'd died and gone to heaven.

When I was really discouraged one day, my sister-in-law Heather spent some time with me talking about the blessing of babies; how once all this passed I would have a little treasure to hold and I really felt it.  She was so sincere.  It's helped me keep perspective ever since.

My friend Melanie gave me all her maternity clothes and let me tell you, they are cute. 
Not one shirt in strawberry or sailboat print, nothing pastel pink; nothing polyester either. Just cute 100% cotton maxi dresses, skirts and ruffle shirts.  Things I would really where even if I wasn’t pregnant. 

Nothing but love.

You people out there are all just too nice. 
What is this world coming too!


  1. I love. Big families. We have ten kids between me and Jennifer!

  2. I just saw a "scientific" article about how parents who only have one or two children are happier than those with more. I don't see how that could be possible! Your babies are blessed to have a mommy that is so happy all the time!

  3. Oh I so think each child is such a Blessing from the Lord and you are one He is Blessing. Enjoy it all.

  4. Congratulations! I had four children and wish I would have had more.

  5. My husband is one of 8 kids. If people have a problem with too many kids, tell them to go scratch. Best of luck with your next bundle of joy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I wish I had another but it wasn't in the cards for us. I enjoy every minute with my two boys.


  6. Congratulations!Thank you for sharing your life, your story, and your blessings of children. Each child is a gift, and you are a blessed mother! Congratulations to you, and enjoy every moment!

  7. I had no idea. I am so excited for you! Congrats! I'm so jealous. Enjoy this last pregnancy. Savor each sweet thing and don't worry you'll forget the hard parts. No regrets. Another baby is such a blessing. I'd die to have another one. Which would be really hard since I'm single. So congrats ! You can do this. It's so worth it. And how fun! Just keep swimming the comments and the morning sickness will just be a blip of the radar screen. You are having a new sweet baby! Whoohooo!