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Thursday, January 2, 2014

Girl's Dressing Modest for Dressember

If you’ve been reading this blog for a while, you are aware I am a member of the Mormon Church, The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.  I was raised by Mormon parents who joined the church in their early twenties, actually before either one of them met.  My parents both lived wonderful lives pre-Mormon with great families and opportunities, but felt the teachings of the Mormon Church brought more fulfillment and happiness into their lives. 

One of the elements of the Mormon Church my Mom really honed in on was modesty. Her mother had set this example and taught her the principle of modest dress. 

Beautiful and modest dress really defined my grandmother's era.

My mom with her mother and sister on Easter Sunday.  

My mom's engagement photo.

In return, my mom taught me and my four sisters the value of our feminine spirits.  She said “One way to keep your body and spirit nurtured is to dress in a way that honor’s God.”

Like many believers of Christ, Mormon’s feel we draw close to God through actions of love, moral goodness and keeping our bodies clean from addiction.  By living such a way, I believe we are given wonderful gift.  It’s the gift of the Holy Ghost.  We can actually have a companion sent to us from our Heavenly Father that guides us throughout our life, keeping us safe, directing us towards our life’s purpose and providing comfort in an uncertain world. 

What is modesty?  It’s more than just knee-length skirts and one-piece swimsuits.  I believe modesty is part of obeying the law of chastity because how we dress reveals our standards.  

I love how author Carly Walker describes us Mormons and our obsession with modesty.  On the website Normons, she shares her desire to stay true to her values in a fashion-obsessed world (and it’s a really funny article).  She says “When me and other Mormon girls my age grew up, we slowly learned the reasons why we dress the way we do. We stopped caring about looking like everybody else. We realized we were too different. Instead of trying to be something we obviously weren’t, we started to dress the way we wanted to, coined the term “modest is hottest,” and then rocked it like a boss.”  
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Also, there’s a great Mormon fashion designer by the name of Athelia Woolley.  She is the co-founder of Shabby Apple, a beautiful dress and clothing company.  On the Shabby Apple website, it says “Newer styles seem to be using less and less materials, but our retro fashion from the 20’s, 30’s, 40’s, 50’s, 60’s and 70’s have a high level of modesty that still complements the feminine shape.”

Here’s a bit more about how Athelia started the Shabby Apple Co.

I had to laugh about Athelia's dilemma with sleeveless dresses.  You’ll notice many of the dresses I wore for Dressember had a t-shirt underneath.  Thus, the life of a modest girl.  I found this Shabby Apple dress at Salvation Army for $4.00 and featured it last year for Dressember.  

Here are the last days of Dressember.  

December 30
Kelly's daughter Emily left on a mission for Chile.  Monday night, they had a going away party.

I wore a Tryst skirt, made by Billabong.  My shirt from Express and Gap cardigan were all from Goodwill's $1.00 day.  
 Doesn't Kelly look gorgeous.  I know a lot of you miss her posts.  She may still blog from time to time, but her life has gone from busy to busier.  Not only does she still do estate sales and trunk shows, but she is also the new Primary president in her ward. She volunteers countless hours for the children ages 18 months to 12 years-old in her church.  

As a missionary, Kelly's daughter Emily honor's the modesty code too.  You can read about the church's guidelines of dress for missionaries here.  
She will volunteer the next 18 months of her life as a full-time servant for our Heavenly Father. 

December 31
Eden is posing on an end table I refinished in her $1.00 Old Navy dress from Goodwill.
On a side note, I was thrilled when Eden was highlighted on Dressember’s Instagram.

I know dressing modest may not be trendy.  It even appear's old fashion, but I am grateful to have this standard in my life.  Dressing this way is a conscious choice I make every time I go out shopping.   There are certain stores I cannot shop in because I will never find a thing I can wear.  Many times it's frustrating, but that's just how it is.  Thrift stores have such a huge selection of woman's clothing, many vintage, so most of my clothing purchases come from there.  When I was younger, I wanted to dress like everyone else.  As a teenager, one of the only fight's I every had with my mom was when I wanted to wear a mini-skirt.  And I did wear it!  Many times!  My mom let me make my own choices with fashion.  She never forced anything on me, but in the end, I came back to what I had been taught.  It's what makes me feel most comfortable.  I wish more designers would accommodate and I think in time, many will realize it's a profitable business.

Benefits of dressing modest:
1.  It allows me to be more creative with fashion. I experiment with layering and leggings.
2.  I get to cover up more of my flaws.
3.  I can still dress trendy, but I don't have to look like a teenager.
4.  I stay warm in the winter
5.  I set an example for my little daughter.
Linking up to:
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  1. Please don't further the damaging "Modest is Hottest" rhetoric!

  2. Modesty is a commitment to myself. Keep the conversation going.

  3. Your blog is beautiful but the ads I see are as immodest as they can be, and as far as I recall I haven't been looking for anything that would draw up those ads -- some kind of game with scantilly dressed characters

    1. I will look into removing the content of the ads. Thank you for letting me know. I had another reader point it out too. I'm not happy about it.

  4. I am not mormon and don't have daughters. I have teen boys and let me tell you,many teen girls around here dress like hookers. Seriously. It is ridiculous that their parents let their children walk out of the house in these short skirts and five inch heels. I'm thinking a little bit of modesty would be welcome

  5. I have the same comment as've got some very sketchy ads of very scantily clad cartoon women caressing their breasts in bikinis. My 5 year old son just asked what they were doing. ugh. You should check out what ads are being placed on your blog.

    1. I will look into removing the content of the ads. Thank you for letting me know. I had another reader point it out too. Thanks for reading My Dear Trash.

  6. Admittedly, I follow your blog for the trash projects as I'm not even a little bit Mormon but I'm always interested in learning. I read the link posted and found some of it particularly disturbing and biased...
    (slightly paraphrased for length)
    Why should a girl dress modestly?
    To help boys control their thoughts
    Why should a boy dress modestly?
    Expected answer: So you don't look like a slob.

    I just about choked on my water. As an artist, I am probably out of the realm as I dress how I feel that day. I'm proud of myself as a female and I dress for me, not others. But to specifically teach this philosophy and encourage the gender divide even further despite what our foremothers fought for? So disappointing in 2014!

    1. This is so true, I was hoping someone else out there would realize the problem I had with this article! Its not that being modest is bad, but showing off bits of skin isn't necessarily evil either! Dress to please yourself, not others!

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  8. Wow, such a fun and sweet post! My favorite is the last photo of your beautiful series of snapshots!

  9. www.sarahhinze.comJanuary 3, 2014 at 9:24 AM

    Love your thoughts--keep it up. You are enlightening!

  10. Love your blog and have been following it for a few years! I appreciate the fact that you keep your daughter modest too. I'm a Mormon well and my husband and I decided we'd dress our daughter in modest clothing from the moment she was born because if we didn't at what point do you make the switch from sleeveless baby dresses to modest clothing for your daughter? We even had to return some baby clothes from the baby shower because they were sleeveless. I laugh because it is harder to find modest baby and toddler clothes for girls than modest clothing for me sometimes. I'm glad someone else shares my viewpoint of dressing their daughter modestly from very little. Rock on, sista!

  11. Young girls should read this post and learn about modest fashion... it's sad what I see young girls wearing sometimes.

  12. Yes I agree with several commenters, the questionable ads for League of Angels game are posted not once but twice on your blog and have been there for quite some time at least since the end of Nov/beginning of Dec. I am sorry to post as anonymous as I have been a follower for quite awhile but was unable to post this any other way (gotta love technology) I love your creativity and the beauty you create! Have a lovely day!
    Laura B in upstate NY

  13. As a committed christian I also agree with modesty. I believe that that is the way God would chose for us to dress.
    I purpposley dont have adds as I am unable to advertise what I dont agree with. great blog will be following

  14. You had some great tips on modesty. To be modest doesn't mean we have to look dorky!

    By the way, I loved the pix of your mother. What a beautiful lady!

  15. I can't help giggling imaging you wearing the mini-skirt anyway... I can remember a lot of times like that with my kids,

    I'm glad you went back to what you grew up with though!

    I think being modest allows for one's personality to shine through more!

    Great post for the letter "G".

    Thanks for linking.


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